So… Here’s a wifey selfie.
That’s all you’re gonna get from yesterday’s Dr. appointment.
Because I apparently can’t read and didn’t see that our appointment is NEXT Wednesday.
My wife is not the best organizer, so I write most of her appointments down in my calendar so that I can remind her. So, she took my word for it because… I’m never wrong *sideeye* and she didn’t catch it until we were getting ready yesterday. *Facepalm*
So… There is absolutely no update… Sigh.
I’m so ready to just get this process started already!!
We’ve been looking at donors and are trying to decide which cryobank we’re going to use if we decide to go anonymous donor…
We found a cryobank here in NYC that is looking like the winner. It’s definitely more along our financial lines because we can eliminate expensive shipping fees. The only drawback is there is little to choose from by way of black donors. But… We think we’ve found a donor that is pretty close to what we’re looking for, so that’s hopeful.
The other place we we’re considering has MANY more black donors but… With crazy shipping costs. One cycle could easily run up to over $2000 in just sperm costs. Which is fine if we get pregnant from 1 cycle… But… That’s (unfortunately) doubtful.
We could of course get rid of all of this if we just went with our known donor. Which we still may. We are just the types to exhaust every option before we make a decision.
Donor Sperm shopping is weird. And harder than I thought it would be.
I mean… You’re basically shopping for your future kid! Or the traits you want them to have. More than likely traits that are close to the non-gestational parent…
Like.. take us:
We want a donor who is artistically inclined, so we look for that in the bio (that we don’t know wether or not to trust but hey, it’s all we got to go from). What did he major in in school? Accounting??? Ummm sounds boring… But oh! He plays the piano!!!
This one is a liberal arts major who has an “entrepreneurial spirit”… Does that mean he’s currently unemployed?? Oh! But the bio says he looks like Idris Elba! *Sideeye*.
This is basically all the info you get… Along with eye and hair color, blood type, race, height and weight (which Kenni pays attention to. She’s got an irrational phobia of having to give birth to a really large baby as small as she is. This cracks me all the way up!) and a few other things depending on the bank.
Then… You pay a subscription fee that allows you a little more info, some pics and maybe audio.
Then its like… Out of the 6 men that you’ve favorited… Which one most likely fits what you would be looking for as “baby daddy” material??
Yes. It’s just as hard for us to decide as it sounds.
Luckily we have until fall to make a decision. Although, like I said, we are eyeing one donor in particular. And… He seems to have a lot of “inventory” so… More shots at conception and siblings. And by siblings I mean ONE other. We’re thinking 2 is the max for us.
I’m fine with having an only child. I grew up as an only child (I have an older sister but from the time I was around 6 on, I was the only kid in my household) and I’m fine… Ok… I may be a lil bossy and lil all about me… But hey, I’m also a Leo so… That’s neither here nor there.
Kenni doesn’t want a lonely child. But, again, I was an only child and never felt lonely. I think my creativity came from me being an only child. I had to make up stuff to do for myself… So again, I don’t see the problem but Kenni has her heart set on there being 4 of us so… If all goes as planned with her… it’ll be my turn!
So there you have it… Our (Lack of) Juju update.
There will be an update next week for sure… I’m making Kenni keep up with her own damn appointments from now on…